He could have walked away . . .
His girlfriend was pregnant, they were both young, and the girl’s mom, fearful for her daughter’s future, was pressuring her to have an abortion. But instead of walking away, my dad decided to propose. Seven months later, I took my first breath having no idea how close I had been to death’s door. That was 1967. I will be forever thankful for my parents’ courage and God’s providence.
When I published my book, Nameless No More, I decided to dedicate it to my father, who passed away when I was 30. I may not be alive today were it not for his courage. This Father’s Day, let us rejoice and celebrate fathers who stand up for life and who devote themselves to loving and caring for their families. At the same time, may we come alongside and compassionately embrace fathers who were never given that chance; who weren’t given a voice.
Abortion hurts everyone. The aftermath of abortion takes the lives of our children, leaves women (like myself) wounded, but also strips fathers of their God-given design as provider and protector, stealing both their voice and their vote when an unexpected pregnancy arises. Could these men be the key to ending abortion? Brian Fisher, author of Abortion: The Ultimate Exploitation of Women thinks so. According to Fisher, “Men started it. Men oppress with it. Men can end it. Post-abortive men: I am convinced the power to end abortion rests with you. Your stories, your pain, and your perspective are what is missing form the abortion dialogue in America.”
The lies of abortion prey not only on women, but on men also. Many men swallow the lie that once a pregnancy occurs, becoming a father is a choice – ignoring the truth that once a child is conceived, he is already a father. The only choice remaining is what kind of father will he chose to be? Courage is a choice. And it’s a choice all of us can make. Perhaps the most passionate proponents of ending abortion are those who, like myself, swallowed the lies, but then found hope and healing through Christ’s love. Then, as God gives us courage, He often leads us to come alongside others who are hurting.
Father’s Day is more than a date on my calendar. It is an annual reminder that I am alive because one man had the courage to stand for life. And yet every day, there are thousands of children at death’s door, waiting for someone to take a stand for life. That someone could be you.
“Children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.” (Psalm 127:3-5)